Why I Allowed My Daughter To Cut Her Hair

IMG_7936About two months ago, my six-year old daughter asked to have her shoulder-length hair cut like her brother’s hair (quite short). I waited a few weeks before making the appointment for her, periodically checking to see if she still wanted to do. Yes, she was firm. I talked her away from Nathan’s super short cut, however. My advice was to do a more feminine style: a pixie like Michelle Williams. IMG_7961I showed her a few photos on Pinterest. She liked them and agreed.

I am in the business of helping people refine their personal image. It is my job to make sure my clients look like who they are and what they do. My daughter is a tomboy and she hates me to do anything with her hair (no pony tails, no braids, no barrettes, etc.). While a pixie is amazingly well-suited to her face shape and bone structure, it is also the perfect cut for a sensible, slightly boy-ish young lady!

I asked my personal hair stylist, Julianna of Bocz Salon (photographed below with Vivien), to do the cut. I didn’t trust anyone else to do it. Great success! The cut is so easy to wash and style. And best of all, no tangles for me to comb (my daughter is quite tender-headed).  Vivien has been skipping around, super happy with her new haircut. She has loved it from the start.

Here is what I hope Vivien takes away from this experience.

IMG_7975Do what you love. This applies to the career she will one day pursue, the clothing she will buy and the updates and changes she will make over the years to her image. Do not worry what others think. Make up your own mind and go for it.

She is in charge of her image. Vivien is free to express herself through her personal image. While I still play the role of her mother, protecting, guiding and teaching her, she can make image choices for herself. I may not agree with all her choices, but she has the power to make them!

Change is good. Vivien has always resisted most new challenges. This is not something she was taught. It is simply in her DNA. However, now that she has experienced a dramatic image change that made her very happy, I hope she will understand that change is a part of life, and many changes are good ones.

Here is what I took away from this experience: I am very proud of my daughter. She is smart, strong and very capable. While she has received a little bit of negative feedback on her new look from a couple of peers, she stands firm in her choice to cut her hair. She loves it, and I love her.

IMG_7973Brother Nathan was less than interested in what was happening.

IMG_7990Vivien made a sweet new friend before she left the salon.

What image change would you like to make? Let me know in your comments!

My best,

Bethany

All photos are my own.

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It’s Just Hair

hairAre you tired and perhaps a little bored with your image and style these days?  Sometimes the issue isn’t with your clothes.  How long has it been since you switched your hair style, color or length?  If it has been more than 5 years, it is time for a change!  Your image gets stale and outdated not just through clothes but also through how we do our hair and makeup.

Now that spring is springing, it may be time to call your hairdresser and tell him/her you are ready for a change.  Cut it all off if you want.  Here’s a little tip:  it grows back!  If you are timid, try taking just an inch or two off the length to give your hair a boost and a lift.  The hair at the bottom gets frazzled and needs a good chop now and then to remain looking fresh and healthy.  As the temps rise, this is the perfect time to try a shorter do.  If you don’t like it, it will be grown out by the fall when the mercury drops again.

As my title suggests, you should not take this change too seriously.  On the one hand, a change to your hair makes a big impact on your image, but on the other hand, it is not a permanent change if you do not wish it to be.  Keep in mind, our eyes get used to seeing ourselves a certain way especially after several years.  Therefore, please give yourself at least a month to evaluate whether this change is right for you.  I have sat in the salon chair before and thought, “what have I done?’ only to change my mind later and decide, “I love it!  It’s just the change I needed.”

You might not be able to afford new clothes or accessories right now, but by gosh you can probably pony up for a hair cut (pun intended)!  Go for it and let me know how it goes.  I’m rooting for you to mix it up this year and try new things.  Why are we here if not to have a little fun now and then?  Have a great day and thanks for taking the time to read my posts.  I truly appreciate each of you!