To be made to feel you are not welcome, not good enough or not important enough hurts beyond description.
About two months ago, my six-year old daughter asked to have her shoulder-length hair cut like her brother’s hair (quite short). I waited a few weeks before making the appointment for her, periodically checking to see if she still wanted to do. Yes, she was firm. I talked her away from Nathan’s super short cut, however. My advice was to do a more feminine style: a pixie like Michelle Williams. I showed her a few photos on Pinterest. She liked them and agreed.
I am in the business of helping people refine their personal image. It is my job to make sure my clients look like who they are and what they do. My daughter is a tomboy and she hates me to do anything with her hair (no pony tails, no braids, no barrettes, etc.). While a pixie is amazingly well-suited to her face shape and bone structure, it is also the perfect cut for a sensible, slightly boy-ish young lady!
I asked my personal hair stylist, Julianna of Bocz Salon (photographed below with Vivien), to do the cut. I didn’t trust anyone else to do it. Great success! The cut is so easy to wash and style. And best of all, no tangles for me to comb (my daughter is quite tender-headed). Vivien has been skipping around, super happy with her new haircut. She has loved it from the start.
Here is what I hope Vivien takes away from this experience.
Do what you love. This applies to the career she will one day pursue, the clothing she will buy and the updates and changes she will make over the years to her image. Do not worry what others think. Make up your own mind and go for it.
She is in charge of her image. Vivien is free to express herself through her personal image. While I still play the role of her mother, protecting, guiding and teaching her, she can make image choices for herself. I may not agree with all her choices, but she has the power to make them!
Change is good. Vivien has always resisted most new challenges. This is not something she was taught. It is simply in her DNA. However, now that she has experienced a dramatic image change that made her very happy, I hope she will understand that change is a part of life, and many changes are good ones.
Here is what I took away from this experience: I am very proud of my daughter. She is smart, strong and very capable. While she has received a little bit of negative feedback on her new look from a couple of peers, she stands firm in her choice to cut her hair. She loves it, and I love her.
Brother Nathan was less than interested in what was happening.
Vivien made a sweet new friend before she left the salon.
What image change would you like to make? Let me know in your comments!
All photos are my own.
It was a pleasure to attend the Aeon Neue Fashion show last night, showcasing collections of students of the Art Institute of Seattle. This student-run show was the school’s 19th, and this year it was hosted at the Canvas Event Space, which itself is an industrial work of art. I was mesmerized by the oversized chandeliers with numerous individual LED lights.
It takes great courage to show your art and your hard work to an audience of not only friends and family but also the local fashion crowd. I applaud the students for their hard work on their collections and for pulling together a wonderful show.
As you can see from the photos above (my own), there is a wide-ranging aesthetic among the students who showcased their work. It is refreshing to see their hard work come to life on the runway.
Thanks for taking a peek. See you again soon!—Bethany
With my twins entering Kindergarten this fall, I am acutely aware this summer is very special for us, a last moment of calm before the storm of schedules, reading, writing and school activities hit. Lavender Hill Farm on Vashon Island, a short ferry ride from our home in West Seattle, was an easy day trip for us, a picnic packed in the back of my car.
For starters, the ferry ride was gorgeous. And we did not have a long wait for the ferry, which is not always a given during summer.
When we arrived at the farm, we learned it was the last week they were open (end of July). Lucky us! What a charming property, not very large, with a private home (that is available for rent most months of the year), picnic tables, Adirondack chairs and a quaint store.
You can cut your own lavender or buy a bunch already cut for $6. They have a wide variety of products in the shop including hand creams, body scrubs, and, of course, lavender oil, of which they have a few varieties. They grow 20 varieties of lavender on the property, and they distill their own oil. The lavender season is short, 6-8 weeks, so plan ahead and make a point of visiting next year.
All photos by me.—Bethany
My hair stylist and best friend, Gary Walden, has been doing my hair for longer than I care to admit. Today the spotlight is on him as he heats up the Dallas streets with his playful yellow and blue ensemble and his perfectly imperfect bracelet stack. The bright yellow shorts play nicely off the darker blue shirt. Neither is vying for the focus. Perfect playmates. The bracelets are a cool mix of colors, textures and weights. Each one stands on its own; however, he has brought them together in one look which makes it unique and special.
Whatever your story and whatever your style, it is yours. Let it speak and do not stifle it. Have fun. Thank you, Gary, for showing us how to have fun with style!
It was a wild party as revelers swang from the chandeliers, swilled champagne spilling over the edges of their glasses, their laughter ringing through the hallways… okay, maybe just that last part is true. But it was a colorful, wonderful evening of fashion at the studio of Tendai Tawonezvi as my Dallas clients, family and friends perused her spring/summer collection. A few smart party-goers purchased pieces to take home, investments for their wardrobe.
As I told everyone in attendance, when I spotted Tendai at a fashion event in Dallas a few years ago, she stood out in a sea of black-clad play-it-safers (of which I was one, sadly). I could not take my eyes off of her. I wanted what she had, not only the clothing, but also the bravery to wear it. Little did I know she was wearing her own pieces, and one day I would own a piece, as well. It makes me very happy every time I wear it. Naturally, I wish everyone to love and enjoy each piece they own, which is why I was eager to show Neobantu to my people!
For 16 years Edie’s Shoes has served up the sophistication of Europe in a relaxed shopping atmosphere in Seattle’s Capitol Hill neighborhood. Founded in 2000 by Erin Dolan, the shop offers men’s, women’s and a select few children’s styles, in addition to hats, handbags, jewelry and men’s accessories. On a recent visit, I found an enticing selection of merchandise, including lovely wall art for sale. As I have learned since moving to Seattle, comfort is key, and Edie’s serves it in abundance. Yet style is never compromised. These are on-trend shoes for the fashionable, discerning client.
Erin knows her stuff and is very hands-on with her customers, offering educated advice on what works and why.
As the saying goes, it is a small world. My daughter could not stop talking about a boy she likes (in a friendly, not a romantic, way – they are only five) in her class at a West Seattle school. It turns out, he is the son of Erin.
Edie’s Shoes offers a welcoming, relaxed shopping environment, and I recommend you stop in soon. They are running an anniversary sale until June 9! Now is the time to invest in a cool pair of shoes no one else will have at a price that won’t break your bank. Happy Shopping!—Bethany
Whoever said redheads cannot wear red was wrong. I am totally digging Cindy in this tomato red printed top and jeans. She looks relaxed and comfortable, vibrant and eye-catching. Bravo, Cindy! Keep wearing bold colors. They suit you!
Cindy and I met for lunch in the U District of Seattle at The Butcher and The Baker, a must-stop for sandwich-loving folks. I ordered a sandwich called The Beast, their take on the French dip, but theirs is way more messy and delicious. I have grease-stained dry clean only pants to show for it. Ha, ha!
More street style coming soon. Thanks for taking a peek. Have a wonderful holiday weekend and let your street style do the talking!—Bethany